My Laws of Marriage
Excerpt from the book “Married Men and Married Boys”
By ‘Abayomi John Elliott’
Law means rules,
commandments, regulations or decree; but what it does is to guide or govern
people on certain issues about life, government, ethics, profession or religion
etc. So my law of marriage says that ‘do
it’ if you have what it takes and ‘don’t
do it’ if you don’t have what it takes to go into marriage. I therefore
point out these laws to govern you if you are thinking of going into marriage
now or you are already in marriage and certain things are just not right.
Whatever you noticed is not right about your marriage can be found among the
under listed laws for you who is already in marriage; and for you who is about
to go into it, all you need to know about marriage are there for you to grasp
and prepare for it.
Any of the laws
that affect you negatively with all sincerity, it means you are still a boy who
goes into marriage or about to go into it. And anyone that affects you
positively means that you are a man in the marriage; but then, you can still improve
on some of those laws for a better result:
1.
Marriage is for people with passion and are happy going into it
not that they are been forced to go into it.
2.
Marriage is for people or men who think of their family first in
everything when they are about to take a decision.
3.
It is not for self-centred or selfish people.
4.
Marriage is for men who are mature in think and reasoning.
5.
It is for men who are ready to reason with their wives before
action or decisions are made.
6.
Marriage is for men with creative minds and ideas.
7.
Marriage is for men who
are bread winners of their family, the scriptures say that any man that cannot
provide for his house hold is worse than infidel. (1Tim. 5:8)
Marriage
is for men who can help their wives at home to wash dishes, toilets/bathrooms
and do other general house cleaning. This does not in anyway, make you a slave
or house boy to your wife, it only shows the extent to which you love her. I do
help my wife a lot at home in doing all kinds of works that are more than the
mentioned ones above; and this does not make her house boy or something. In
fact;
it makes her look younger than anybody would imagine, because she is not been
over used such that she would become older than her age. I can confidently tell
you that my wife is beautiful as ever because I am not over using her for
whatever reason; the bible even says that wives are helper for men from the
creation. Gen 2:20 ‘So Adam gave names to all cattle, to
the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was
not found a helper comparable to him’ .Wives are not house help
or slaves to their husbands as some men
has seen them to be so; fear God and what is good and right before Him
concerning how you treat your wives.
8.
Marriage is for people or men who treat their wives as friends,
partners and not as slave or sex or roommate.
9. Marriage is for people or men who are ready to shun or hate
anything to do with strange women outside his home; he does not flirt and sleep
with them, eat their food and cleave to their own wives only.
10. Marriage is for men who listen to their
wives advises and seeks
her consent too before doing
anything
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